I'm A Keeper - Ray W. Lincoln

                                                            

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Synopsis :

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• You will understand how your children are made on the inside and what urges drive their preferences so that you will know how to motivate them. 
• You will discover why they do what they do. (Wouldn’t that be great to know?) You can then teach and train them with wisdom they will respect and accept. 
• Your parenting will become easier and much more pleasurable. Easier is happier. 
• You will parent with new confidence because you will know you are doing the right thing for your child.
• You will bond with your child and prepare for those teenage years. They will relish your understanding them.
• All the help is tailored to the temperament of your child. It is not a new “method.” It is “understanding” how your children are made and what motivates them.
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• You will learn how to talk to each child in a language they will understand and accept.
• You will discover what is causing much of the conflict in the home and how to resolve it.

Ray W. Lincoln, international coach, teacher, and expert in Temperament Psychology, has provided the tools necessary to determine your child’s temperament and the explanations of those temperaments in the warm language of a trusted friend to help you understand each child and parent with confidence.

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                                                                 Guest Blog Post :
                                        
                               Three Ways We Create Our Own Weaknesses By Ray W. Lincoln

Ray Lincoln is the founder of Ray W. Lincoln & Associates, providing life coaching, parenting seminars, personal growth seminars, marriage seminars and more. His expertise in Temperament Psychology has led to such success with solving parenting dilemmas that he has finally answered the recurring calls of his clients by publishing “I’m a Keeper.” His website, RayWLincoln.com, and blog, http://blog.raywlincoln.com offer further help and guidance

This may surprise you, but we have ourselves to blame for our weaknesses! Sorry, we can’t blame our temperament or anyone or anything outside of ourselves. We are responsible! By the way, don’t say “blame.” Blame, to me, is a dangerous word. We should not “blame” ourselves for anything since blame is condemnation. To condemn ourselves results in negative judgments against ourselves and can be very damaging.

We should, rather, hold ourselves responsible for our actions. We don’t want to blame our children because it lowers their self-esteem. And one of the temperaments (the NF), in particular, is strongly affected by continual inner judgments against themselves. We cannot afford to encourage these inner judgments. We should not let ourselves off the hook when we are responsible, either. Blame is condemnation, but accepting responsibility points us positively in the direction of change. Being accountable, without the negative impact of blame, is our goal. We simply are responsible for all of our actions and reactions, and that means for all of our weaknesses, because I hope to convince you that you really are responsible for your weaknesses – as I am for mine.

Weaknesses are the negatives in our lives. We have already said that we can never be given negatives. Positives, yes! Negatives are the malfunctioning of a healthy system. They result in and are caused by mistakes, failures, wrongs, and hurts. Weaknesses come from the wrong use or non use of strengths. Here’s how…

My observations have taught me that all weaknesses are a negative reflection of our strengths and we create them in one of three ways:
1. When we don’t use our strengths, we create weaknesses in our lives. This should be obvious.

2. When we overuse our strengths we create weaknesses. The overuse of any strength creates a weakness. Overuse creates a negative (not a positive) force.

3. When we use our strengths for wrong purposes (that is, to hurt ourselves or others – any others) we develop weaknesses, and we soon feel the pain of guilt flagging us that something is wrong.

There’s good news in this. I hope you see it. The good news is that, because we are responsible for our weakness, we can overcome them. The solution is really simple. It starts with understanding focus. We’ll deal with that in a subsequent lesson.

This article is adapted from an excerpt from the book, I’m A Keeper, by Ray W. Lincoln. Ray is offering a great package of supporting gifts FOR A LIMITED TIME to those who purchase I’m a Keeper. Go NOW to http://web.me.com/raynmaryjolincoln/RayWLincoln/Imakeeperbook.html  to access this helpful book and the incredible offer.