Guest Post : How to Be Happy as a Single Lady
This evening's Guest Post before I head off to bed is written by Ellie Stevens and is all about How to be happy as a Single Lady.
Ellie Stevens is a guest post author who enjoys writing about dating and relationships. Ellie also owns Senior Dating Sites where she provides helpful information to the senior community about safe methods of online dating.
If you claim a relationship status of single and are constantly living in agony over signing into Facebook for fear of being bombarded with nothing but pictures of your friends’ engagement rings, flowers sent to them by “the best boyfriend ever,” and their brand new babies sleeping in meadows, you could be on the verge of account deactivation accompanied by a mental breakdown.
It’s no secret that it’s tough to be single…and when it seems like all of your friends are settling down with the love and happiness you are dreaming of, it only makes it that much tougher. But instead of screaming the next time your open your mailbox to find eighteen invitations to various weddings and showers, be sure to check out the following ways for embracing life as a happy single woman:
Give up jealousy. Sure you’d like to be married someday like your best friend—but if you let your feelings reach the point of being envious, it will do nothing but hurt you and put a strain on the relationship you have with the people you love. So instead of harping on what others have and you don’t, focus rather on all the great things you DO have. Whether it’s awesome gal pals, a mother who you can always call, your ultimate dream job, or the fantastic bachelorette pad that puts a roof over your head—chances are that you have it a lot better than most people…so throw all of that jealousy out the window, trust that love will find you when the time is right and be thankful!
Leave the past in the past. One of the biggest factors contributing to unhappiness amongst single ladies everywhere is the ex-factor. Exes…we all have them and for the most part, they are all human beings who wouldn’t be missed if they were to be boarded up and shipped to a deserted island in the middle of nowhere, never to be seen or cried over again. That being said…forget about the guy. When you live in the past and put all your energy into questioning what might have been, you don’t allow yourself the opportunity to enjoy new people and new experiences that life brings your way today. He’s an ex for a reason—so look at the past as a learning experience, put it behind you and set your sights on a happy present and an even happier future.
Spoil yourself. You’re not going to be single forever and this place in your life where you don’t have to worry about anyone but yourself is a rare one—so be sure to take advantage of it! Go out with the girls, take a vacation, hit up the gym, treat yourself to a shopping spree and just spend your time embracing the things that you enjoy and that make you feel good about YOU. When you focus on your own life and love yourself, your happiness will shine from within and make you more susceptible to finding someone else who loves you too.
Get positive. Being single in today’s age isn’t a death sentence—so stop treating it like one. When you mope around dwelling on the fact that you don’t have that special guy in your life, you aren’t likely to find him with such a bad attitude. Of course, every single girl has her down days from time to time—but when these days creep up on you, the trick is to look in the mirror and tell yourself at least three awesome things that make you the awesome person you are…then use this positivity along with your killer smile to take on the world knowing that you are strong, independent and you don’t need a man to make you happy—because you are already happy with yourself!